Do not be afraid of them or their words. Don't be afraid even though their threats surround you like nettles and briers and stinging scorpions, Ezekiel 2:6. Be not afraid of their faces: for I am with thee to deliver thee, saith the LORD, Jeremiah 1:8.
"It's not that I was afraid of her. I just wanted to keep the peace. I tried to say the right things, but everything I said was turned against me. What hurts the most is the fact that she lied and manipulated me. She turned our family against me and made herself look better - like I was the bad seed or the black sheep and bad child in the family. She played the victim and said what she did to me never happened. She even apologized for "whatever" it was as if she had done nothing, so God could forgive her. I even wrote down what she did and she denied all that, too. Why is she manipulating me? I'm still hurting and she never owned up to things she did as recently as a few days ago, yesterday and today, yet she remembers everything I did. That's why I wanted to let go and just give up. I wasn't being heard, no one cared, she said she was never abusive and they believed her."
In our suicide prevention series, one of the first things we want to point out is that sometimes people play mind games, are heartless with their words and may make themselves look like the victim. These are signs of a narcissist who can be very cruel, unloving (it looks like love to promote their agenda), and emotionally manipulative. You may find yourself on the receiving end of countless arguments meant to manipulate you into doubting your own self worth and sanity. Seriously. It's not you. It's them. If you've experienced this, we pray for your healing and for the renewing of your mind.
Never think that suicide is a way to "finally show them how much they weren't there for you." Narcissists don't recognize their cruel behavior and if they do see it, i.e., if a spotlight is shining on them, they will mask it, deflect and say it's you or admit to nothing and say you made it up and are attacking them. We want you to take care of yourself because you are so valuable to others, to God and those in need of your love, warm friendship, genuine caring heart, and talents.
Surround yourself with people who will uplift you, are genuine and will help you build self confidence. If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, look for articles online to help, seek counseling, talk to your pastor and minimize your exposure to the person so you can better recognize the behavior to save yourself from further abuse. Look for articles online to help you build your self worth and self confidence. While you may not be able to change the other person or get them to own up to their behavior, know that God knows all and sees all and He will deal with them.You shall have life more abundantly. Trust God and seek wisdom in the Word...God-Driven-Designs.com
Prayer for Healing, Peace and Renewing of the Mind
Father God in the name of Jesus, we pray for healing in this person's life right now. We speak and decree healing and renewal of the mind. Give them healing in their heart and we rebuke the demon's of bitterness and loneliness. We rebuke the demons of suicide, narcissism, depression and we rebuke intimidation and oppressive demons from their life in Jesus name. They shall be lonely no more. They shall find peace, healing, their purpose and provision. They shall be filled with an abundance of peace and help. Lord, please build their confidence and help them in any relationship where they feel intimidated to be confident in You and stand firm on Your Word. We praise you for your loving kindness. We also pray put the enemy under their feet, in Jesus name, amen. Stay in God's shadow and trust Him to help you.
A great read to help you understand abusive and manipulative behavior. We want you to understand psychological mind games and controlling behaviors that narcissists exhibit so you can equip yourself with the wisdom you need to heal, so you can make sense out of things and get your life back on track. It's not you. It's them. Click on the book image or click here...
How to Recognize Narcissistic Behavior in Someone Else
If you can identify with the following post, you might be dealing with a narcissist:
When all else fails, this is what they do. Put them in a corner about something that happened as recently as an hour ago and they will either tell you that they have no recall of it whatsoever or simply tell you that you are wrong. At this point they will be more than happy to go into great detail about what really transpired, which can be so blatantly untrue that it leaves you standing mouth agape.
They will claim to have said or done things that they didn't; claim that you did or said things that you didn't or simply rewrite the story entirely. In extreme cases they will even claim that the incident never happened at all.
One of the most shocking things to come out of my letter to my dad was that I not once mentioned or even alluded to anything physical, even though my dad had given us serious spankings. The kind that welts and bruises are made of. He in fact prided himself on his ability to inflict physical punishment that could make a grown man cry. Well, after receiving my letter, which had been completely silent on this issue (you can read it for yourself), he went out of his way to insist to all of us that he had never once raised a hand to any of us. He actually believed that he could successfully lead us to believe that we had all imagined it. The fact that also he denied every other point I raised somehow paled in comparison to this.